"Forgiveness is not about condoning what someone did, it's about accepting that the past couldn't have been any different." - Oprah Winfrey. You don't need to like the person you forgive, you don't need to become friends with them. You just need to forgive and let go. Festering can become an infection that overtakes your whole being until it begins to kill off your soul.
The word is easy to say, and yet the act can seem so difficult to do. Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character and compassion to forgive. When you forgive you release yourself from a painful burden.
Forgiveness does not mean that you condone what happened or even that the person should be allowed back into your life.
It means that you have made peace with the pain and are ready to let it go. You forgive other people because forgiving them helps you to heal yourself and move forward in your life. Forgiveness is an essential part to healing your past and all of your relationships.
Forgiveness isn't even about whether the person you are forgiving deserves it or not. It's really about you. What do you want? To be stuck in "Victimville" or even "Survivorhood" for the rest of your life? Or do you want to get the best revenge possible and live a long, happy life? If you choose the second option, then you must work on forgiving.
I'd love to hear your stories of forgiveness, struggles or questions. Feel free to comment. To your transformational enlightenment ~ Bo
